第二課｜每個人都在屬靈旅程上
Session 2 | Everyone Is on a Spiritual Journey
核心思想｜Big Idea
牧養不是要求每一個人成為一樣，而是陪伴每一個人走向神為他預備的下一步。
Shepherding is not about making everyone the same, but faithfully walking with each person toward the next step God has prepared for them.
「健康的人用不著醫生，有病的人才用得著。我來本不是召義人，而是召罪人。」（馬可福音2:17）
“It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Mark 2:17, NIV)
引言｜Introduction
上一課我們思想了成熟門徒的生命，明白健康的小組，始於一群願意持續被基督塑造的人。然而，當我們真正開始與弟兄姊妹同行時，很快便會發現另一個事實：每一個人的屬靈旅程都不一樣。
有些人剛剛開始探索信仰，對聖經仍然陌生；有些人已經信主多年，卻仍然在某些生命課題上掙扎；也有人開始學習服侍，盼望成為別人的祝福。如果我們用同一個標準去衡量每一個人，很容易產生比較和壓力，而忽略了神在每一個人生命中不同的工作。
因此，真正的牧養，不是把每一個人帶到同一個位置，而是陪伴每一個人忠心走好神為他預備的下一步。
In the previous session, we discovered that healthy small groups begin with people whose lives are continually being transformed by Christ. As we begin walking alongside others, however, we soon realise that every person’s spiritual journey is different.
Some are just beginning to explore the Christian faith. Others have followed Christ for many years but continue to wrestle with certain areas of life. Still others are learning to serve and bless those around them. When we expect everyone to grow in the same way, comparison and unnecessary pressure can easily replace grace.
True shepherding is therefore not about bringing everyone to the same place, but helping each person faithfully take the next step God has prepared for them.
耶穌按著人的光景引導每一個人｜Jesus Shepherded People According to Where They Were
福音書讓我們看見，耶穌從來沒有用同一種方法對待每一個人。祂總是先看見一個人的生命光景，再按著對方當時最需要的，引導他走向下一步。
撒該需要的是悔改，尼哥底母需要的是明白真理，撒瑪利亞婦人需要的是重新認識自己的生命，彼得則需要時間被塑造、被建立。（路19:1–10；約3:1–21；約4:7–26；約21:15–19）
四個人，四種不同的背景，四段不同的生命旅程，但耶穌始終做著同一件事：祂沒有要求每一個人都站在同一個位置，而是按著他們當時的光景，耐心陪伴、細心引導，幫助他們一步一步走向神為他們預備的下一步。
Throughout the Gospels, Jesus never treated everyone in the same way. He first recognised where each person was and then lovingly led them toward the next step.
Zacchaeus needed repentance. Nicodemus needed understanding. The Samaritan woman needed restoration. Peter needed time to be shaped and strengthened. (Luke 19:1–10; John 3:1–21; John 4:7–26; John 21:15–19)
Different people. Different backgrounds. Different journeys. Yet Jesus always did the same thing. He never expected everyone to stand in the same place. Instead, He patiently walked alongside each person, guiding them according to where they were and leading them toward the next step God had prepared for them.
請看看這張圖｜Looking at the Diagram
這張圖稱為安格爾尺（Engel Scale），它並不是要把人分類或評分，而是幫助我們明白：信仰不是一個瞬間完成的決定，而是一段持續成長的旅程。
圖的最左端，是「抗拒」（−5）——一個人對福音仍然帶著防備甚至敵意；再往右，會經過「冷淡」「開放」「聆聽」「掙扎」，這幾個階段的人，未必太願意與基督接觸，但他們的心正在一步一步鬆動，開始願意聆聽、願意思考福音是否與自己有關。
到了「決志」（0），是一個人回應呼召、選擇跟隨基督的關鍵時刻，但這並不是旅程的終點，而是另一段旅程的起點。決志之後，圖繼續往右延伸，經過「歸屬」「成長」「事奉」，直到「宣教生活」和「敬拜人生」（+5）——一個人從單純參與教會群體，到逐漸活出使命，也把生命完全獻上敬拜神。
因此，每一位組員，不論坐在小組哪一個位置，其實都在這條旅程線上的某一點。有人剛剛開始鬆動，有人正在掙扎發問，也有人已經在服侍中活出使命。安格爾尺並沒有創造新的牧養方法，它只是提醒我們一個重要的問題：
「神今天最想帶領這個人踏出的下一步是什麼？」
This diagram is known as the Engel Scale. It is not designed to classify or rank people, but to help us understand that faith is not a single decision but a lifelong journey of growth.
At the far left is “Resistant” (−5)—someone who may still feel defensive or even hostile toward the gospel. Moving rightward, a person may become “Indifferent,” “Open,” “Listening,” or “Wrestling.” They may not reach out with christ, yet their hearts are quietly softening, becoming willing to listen and consider whether the gospel speaks to their lives.
At the centre is “Decision” (0)—the moment someone chooses to follow Christ. But this is not the end of the journey; it is the beginning of another. From there, the scale continues through “Belonging,” “Growing,” and “Serving,” all the way to “Living on Mission” and “A Life of Worship” (+5)—From there, the scale continues through “Belonging,” “Growing,” and “Serving,” all the way to “Living on Mission” and “A Life of Worship” (+5)—where a person moves from simply attending church to living out God’s mission and offering their whole life in worship.
Every member, therefore, stands somewhere on this journey—some are just beginning to soften, some are wrestling with honest questions, and others are already living out their faith through service and mission. The Engel Scale does not introduce a new philosophy of ministry. It simply reminds us to ask one essential question:
“What is the next step God may be inviting this person to take?”
陪伴人成長｜Walking Alongside Others
當我們明白每一個人的屬靈旅程都不同，我們便不再急於改變別人，而是學習先了解別人的光景。
有些人需要有人耐心聆聽；有些人需要有人回答信仰疑問；有些人需要一句鼓勵，幫助他踏出服侍的第一步。真正的牧養，不是用同一種方法對待每一個人，而是按著每一個人所處的生命光景，陪伴他繼續成長。
正如保羅勸勉教會：「要警戒不守規矩的人，勉勵灰心的人，扶助軟弱的人，也要向眾人忍耐。」（帖前 5:14）每一個人的生命光景都不同，因此，我們也需要學習按著不同的需要，以愛心和忍耐陪伴彼此走向成熟。
Once we recognise that everyone is on a different spiritual journey, we become less concerned with changing people quickly and more concerned with understanding where they are.
Some need a listening ear. Some need answers to honest questions. Others need encouragement to take a first step of service. Genuine shepherding does not use the same approach for everyone, but seeks to help each person grow according to where they are.
結語｜Conclusion
健康的小組，不是每一位組員都站在同一個位置，而是每一位組員都願意繼續向前走一步。
神沒有要求每一個人用同樣的速度成長，也沒有用同一個方法塑造每一個人。祂總是按著每一個人的生命光景，耐心引導、細心牧養，一步一步帶領人更認識祂。
今天，神同樣邀請我們，用恩典的眼光看待身邊的人，不急於改變他們，而是忠心陪伴他們，在各自的生命旅程上，一步一步走向神所預備的下一步。
下一課，我們將一起思想：若要陪伴別人成長，我們首先需要學習認識自己。很多時候，我們看見的是人的行為，神看見的卻是人的內心。我們將透過薩提爾冰山和周哈里窗，學習如何更深入認識自己，並建立真誠而健康的人際關係。
A healthy small group is not one where everyone stands in the same place, but one where everyone continues taking faithful steps forward.
God does not expect everyone to grow at the same pace, nor does He shape every person in the same way. Instead, He patiently leads each individual according to where they are, guiding them one step closer to Himself.
Today, God invites us to see others with grace — not rushing to change them, but faithfully walking alongside them as they take the next step He has prepared for them.
In our next session, we will explore another important truth. Before we can walk wisely with others, we must first learn to understand ourselves. Through the Satir Iceberg and the Johari Window, we will discover how deeper self-awareness helps us build authentic and healthy relationships.
Reflection｜反思
神今天是否提醒你，不要只看一個人的表現，而要更多了解他所處的生命階段？在你身邊，有沒有一位弟兄姊妹特別需要你的耐心陪伴和代禱？
Is God reminding you today to look beyond outward behaviour and understand where someone is on their spiritual journey? Is there someone who especially needs your patient companionship and prayer?
Discussion｜討論
回想耶穌對撒該、尼哥底母、撒瑪利亞婦人和彼得的牧養方式。你認為祂有哪些共同的原則？這些原則對今天建立健康小組有什麼提醒？
Reflect on how Jesus ministered to Zacchaeus, Nicodemus, the Samaritan woman, and Peter. What common principles do you see? How can these principles help us build healthier small groups today?
Practice｜實踐
本週主動關心一位組員，多花時間了解他的近況，不急於給建議，只專心聆聽，並為他禱告。在禱告中思想：神今天最希望帶領他踏出的下一步是什麼？
This week, intentionally spend time with one member of your small group. Rather than offering immediate advice, listen carefully, pray with them, and ask God in prayer what the next step in their spiritual journey might be.
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