第二課｜每個人都在屬靈旅程上
Session 2 | Everyone Is on a Spiritual Journey
核心思想 | Big Idea
牧養不是要求每一個人成為一樣，而是陪伴每一個人走向神為他預備的下一步。
Shepherding is not about making everyone the same, but faithfully walking with each person toward the next step God has prepared for them.
「健康的人用不著醫生，有病的人才用得著。我來本不是召義人，而是召罪人。」（可2:17）
“It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners.” (Mark 2:17, NIV)
引言 | Introduction
上一課我們思想了成熟門徒的生命，明白一個健康的小組，始於一位願意持續被基督塑造的門徒。然而，當我們真正開始帶領一個小組時，很快便會發現另一個挑戰：每一位組員都不一樣。
有些人剛剛開始探索信仰，對聖經仍然陌生；有些人已經信主多年，卻仍在某些生命課題上掙扎；也有人已經願意承擔服侍，開始學習帶領別人。如果我們用同一個標準去衡量每一個人，小組很容易變成一個充滿比較和壓力的地方，而不是一個充滿恩典和成長的群體。
因此，一位成熟的組長，不只是懂得帶查經，更重要的是懂得看人，明白每一個人都正走在不同的屬靈旅程上。
Last session we reflected on the life of a mature disciple and discovered that healthy small groups begin with leaders whose lives are continually being transformed by Christ. Yet as we begin leading people, we quickly encounter another reality: no two people are the same.
Some are just beginning to explore the Christian faith. Others have been believers for many years but continue to wrestle with personal struggles. Still others are ready to serve and help others grow. When we expect everyone to mature in the same way, our small groups can easily become places of comparison rather than communities of grace.
A mature leader therefore learns not only how to teach Scripture, but also how to understand people.
耶穌按著人的光景引導每一個人 | Jesus Shepherded People According to Where They Were
福音書讓我們看見，耶穌從來沒有用同一種方法對待每一個人。祂的牧養不是一套固定的程序，而是一段同行的旅程。祂總是先看見一個人的生命光景，然後按著對方當時最需要的，引導他走向下一步。
撒該已經預備好回應神，因此耶穌主動走進他的家，呼召他回轉；尼哥底母仍然在尋找真理，因此耶穌耐心與他談論重生；撒瑪利亞婦人背負著破碎的人生，耶穌沒有急於指出她的問題，而是先建立關係，再一步一步引導她面對自己的生命；彼得雖然充滿熱情，卻仍然衝動和不成熟，因此耶穌用了三年的時間陪伴、教導和塑造他，最後才把牧養教會的責任交給他。
四個人，四種不同的背景，四條不同的道路，但耶穌始終做著同一件事：祂沒有要求所有人立即站在同一個位置，而是忠心地陪伴每一個人走向神為他預備的下一步。
Throughout the Gospels, Jesus never used the same approach with everyone. His ministry was not a fixed programme but a journey of walking alongside people. He first recognised where each person was and then lovingly led them toward the next step.
Zacchaeus was ready to repent, so Jesus invited Himself into his home. Nicodemus was searching for truth, so Jesus patiently explained the new birth. The Samaritan woman carried deep wounds, so Jesus first built a relationship before confronting the deeper issues of her life. Peter possessed great passion but little maturity, so Jesus spent three years shaping his character before entrusting him with leadership.
Different people. Different starting points. Different next steps. Yet the same Shepherd faithfully led each of them toward God’s purpose.
請看看這張圖 | Looking at the Diagram
這張圖稱為安格爾尺（Engel Scale）。它不是一張屬靈成績表，也不是用來把人分類，更不是衡量誰比較屬靈。它只是幫助我們用一個簡單的圖像，看見一個重要的真理：信仰不是一個瞬間完成的決定，而是一段持續成長的旅程。
請留意，這張圖不是要我們記住每一個階段，而是提醒我們，每一個人都站在不同的位置。有些人仍然抗拒福音，有些人開始願意探索信仰，有些人已經接受基督，也有人正在學習成為成熟的門徒。
因此，安格爾尺最大的價值，不是告訴我們一個人今天在哪裡，而是提醒我們思考：
「神今天最想帶領他走出的下一步是什麼？」
從這個角度來看，安格爾尺並沒有創造新的牧養理念，它只是幫助我們整理耶穌一直以來的牧養方式。
The Engel Scale is not a spiritual report card. It is not designed to rank people or measure who is more mature. Instead, it provides a simple visual reminder that faith is a journey rather than a single moment.
Rather than memorising every stage, notice the bigger picture. People stand at different places in their journey. Some are resistant to the gospel, some are seeking, some have come to faith, while others are learning to become mature disciples.
The value of the Engel Scale is not simply identifying where someone is today. Its greatest value is helping us ask:
“What is the next step God may be inviting this person to take?”
In many ways, the Engel Scale does not introduce a new philosophy of ministry. It simply illustrates the way Jesus Himself shepherded people.
組長最大的責任，是陪伴人成長 | A Leader’s Greatest Responsibility Is to Walk Alongside People
很多組長都希望組員快點成熟，因此容易把焦點放在「我要教他什麼」、「我要如何改變他」。然而，耶穌很多時候先做的，不是教導，而是同行；不是催促，而是傾聽；不是要求，而是邀請。
真正的牧養，不是催促，而是辨識。我們需要先明白一個人今天身處何處，才能知道他真正需要的是什麼。有些人需要更多時間建立信任，有些人需要有人回答信仰疑問，也有人需要被鼓勵踏出服侍的第一步。相同的方法，不一定適合每一個人；真正成熟的組長，懂得按著不同人的光景，用不同的方法陪伴他們，一起走向神的呼召。
Many leaders naturally focus on helping people grow as quickly as possible. We often ask, “What should I teach?” or “How can I help this person change?” Yet Jesus often began not by instructing, but by walking alongside people. He listened before He corrected. He invited before He challenged.
True shepherding begins with discernment. Before deciding what someone needs to hear, we first seek to understand where they are. Different people require different forms of care. Mature leaders do not force everyone into the same mould; they faithfully accompany each person toward God’s calling.
結語 | Conclusion
一個健康的小組，不是每一位組員都站在同一個位置，而是每一位組員都願意繼續向前走一步。成熟的組長，也不是把所有人帶到自己的位置，而是忠心陪伴每一個人走向神為他預備的下一步。
下一課，我們將繼續思想另一個重要課題：如果要陪伴別人成長，我們首先必須學會認識自己。很多時候，我們看見的是一個人的行為，神看見的卻是他的內心。因此，我們將透過薩提爾冰山和周哈里窗，一起學習如何更深入地認識自己，並建立真誠而健康的人際關係。
A healthy small group is not one where everyone stands in the same place, but one where everyone continues taking faithful steps forward. Likewise, a mature leader is not someone who brings everyone to the same destination, but someone who faithfully walks with each person toward the next step God has prepared.
In our next session, we will explore another essential question. If we hope to guide others well, we must first understand ourselves. We often see people’s behaviour, but God sees the heart. Through the Satir Iceberg and the Johari Window, we will learn how deeper self-awareness lays the foundation for authentic relationships.
Reflection｜反思
你目前正處於生命旅程的哪一個階段？神今天最希望你踏出的「下一步」是什麼？
Where are you on your spiritual journey today? What do you sense is the next step God is inviting you to take?
Discussion｜討論
回想一位曾經耐心陪伴你成長的人。
他最寶貴的地方，不是急於改變你，而是願意理解你的光景。這段同行如何影響了你的生命？
Think of someone who patiently walked alongside you.
Rather than trying to change you immediately, they first sought to understand you. How did that journey shape your life?
Practice｜實踐
本週，主動邀請一位組員喝杯咖啡，或在聚會後多留十五分鐘聊天。不要急於給建議，而是多問、多聽，例如：「最近有什麼事情讓你感到感恩？」「最近有什麼事情讓你感到困難？」「如果我可以為你禱告，你最希望我為哪一件事情代禱？」在禱告中思想：神今天最想帶領他踏出的下一步是什麼？
This week, invite one member for coffee or stay after your gathering for a meaningful conversation. Instead of giving advice, ask thoughtful questions and listen carefully. Afterwards, pray and ask yourself: “What might be the next step God is inviting this person to take?”
Antony 傳道
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